Is it ever appropriate to ask for them? However, blatantly asking for specific gifts — monetary or otherwise — is in poor taste. Just imagine an invitation that reads: What you can do is let guests know if they ask that the bride prefers cash gifts.

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Some guests will still prefer to give a tangible gift, so the couple should register for a few items. Simply display all cards and gifts together for the bride to open and acknowledge. The happy bride-to-be should always remember to feel privileged, not entitled.

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To make it easy for you and avoid a shopping spree We thought that we would have instead, a little money tree. Here are your options:. If you choose to participate with a cash donation, give whatever you feel comfortable giving. The shower host will start the tree off for guests by tying a bill or small envelope on the tree, and guests will follow suit. In this instance, bring a card separate from the cash for the bride. My daughter is in the service, stationed about miles away.

She meet for sole mate there and they were married. He is also from a another state. We would love to give them a GIFT CARD Shower, or a money shower when they come home in may. Traveling with a lot of gift would be impossible. We would like ideas on doing this in the proper way. I was recently invited to a bridal shower that stated the following.

Instead of gifts please feel free to send a gift of money in the envelope provided so we can buy a camera for the couple to take on their honeymoon to captured their memories. I THINK SO …. COUPLE NEEDS TO FIX-UP OLDER HOME INSTEAD OF GIFTS: Oh well, we just had LOTS TO TAKE BACK to get more of what she really needed… sad but true…. This is the reason we are trying to organize everyone going out to brunch. Even complimentary valet incl. We are all very close and down to earth people, but these things could ruffle feathers with my aunts or friends of my mother in law to be.

I am 40 years old and my sisters want something nice for me bless their hearts. If you would like to join in contributing to the purchase of it, please let me know by date. This is a way that gives an option to the guests. Here are some google results that may help…. And the info here is amazing complete with links…. When wording the shower invites, you can write: In lieu of traditional gifts the couple or bride have chosen to register at the following places…. Could someone touch on that? You know-we did an exchange of gifts at the office.

It was a slap in the face and made her look BAD. She wares the finest clothes, etc. People who do not want to play the game-should not take the rewards. Molly June, It is always thoughtful to send a gift but even if someone can financially afford a gift, the guest always has the option to give. For instance, holidays we give gifts but if we do not get one we do not feel any different for the person. It should never be about the amount of the gift, just the thought behind it, is what matters most.

Bridal Shower Etiquette - Asking for Money

If a guest cannot attend the shower they are not obligated to send or give a gift. What gift to send if not attending the destination wedding?

Bridal gift if not attending shower? Sending a shower gift if not attending? Molly June, See this link. I know most of these apply to wedding gifts but focus on general gift giving as well.

I hope these links helped and hope everything works out. Wishing you the best! Kyra-did you have your wedding yet? Some people may realize your situation and give a nice cash gift, otherwise, just keep it simple. ABOUT 2w of us there. Molly June, Your sisters wedding sounds perfect. I love weddings with simplicity and happy to see them make a come back. I agree focus on the true meaning and celebrating with family and friends with good food and lots of laughter, it makes for a beautiful memory.

Gift giving is optional from the guest at any event. Unfortunately, this is why there are so many issues in events nowadays. It should be more about the person attending and celebrating with the bride than the gifts.

Sadly, it is breaking up relationships even lifetime friendships or family for not givng a gift or other circumstances and it is not worth the long term problems it can cause because of one day prewedding or wedding events. Other than most couples already having everything they need and conflicts, giftless bridal showers are on the rise as well. I am so glad the moms and babies are doing okay.

I hope I have helped with your question. Kyra, I would see who has talents in the family that can diy on florals etc. I would choose a backyard wedding or a place that is pretty reasonable. One couple I read about had a simple brunch and with about 40 guests and it was bucks minus attire.

It can be done but super creative. My daughter got married at a bed and breakfast in Dec. She wore a flowy burgundy pantsuit and made her cake. People still rave about it. Hi Kyra, Im not sure if you had your wedding yet, but if you havent and we live close, I would be happy to help you with flowers and cutting corners. I also made a wedding web site that said we would rather have monitary gifts due to living together for four years. We had everything we needed.

If you need anymore help or advise let me know. Simply put, asking for someone to arbitrarily buy you something is tacky and wrong. A gift is not ASKED FOR. A gift is FREELY GIVEN. Society today is just so self absorbed and has a sense of entitlement. Momo, THANK YOU so much for saying this out loud!!!! What happened to elegance and class? We have found some amazing ideas and ways to have the wedding we want on a very tight budget.

No lines to stand in, no frustrations about printing out registries. What about the peope such as myself who cannot take gifts back home with them… My husband and I are stationed in Oahu, Hawaii and we will be having a shower in the Mid-West. Shipping items from the mainland to island is EXTREMELY expensive it would be impossible for us to do.

We have to either ask for cash or no gift; otherwise, the gift will be left in the states. The whole point of giving gifts is to help the couple; not give them more expenses and useless items. Americans waste enough as it is!! A money tree is absolutely tacky. These guests do not owe the bride and groom anything except the honor of their presence. So brides and grooms alike should be grateful for any gift they receive.

FYI I am not white anglo saxon and I would say this is tacky and make me uncomfortable. I would actually turn down the invite to avoid that awkwardness. I do not think it tacky to ask for money.

I am over the drama, I am in love. We registered with Carnival for our honeymoon, anything we do not spend onboard will be cashed out to us the last day of the cruise. BUT — requiring me to do so is offensive. Plus, I will not have the ability to circulate through the other guests and visit with all nor have any chance to sit down and have a moment or two with the honored guest.

The spot I get at the table will be mine, even if it is at the opposite end of the people I treasure most. I think the best thing to do in this particular case is to politely decline the invitaion. Explain to bride and groom that you simply cannot afford to go. If they really are friends of yours then they will understand.

Or something along those lines. But whatever you decide to tell them I think that if you really are that uncomfortable with it, you should not attend. That seems more for you than for them. Plus only in white anglo saxon culture is it rude — most other cultures give money and expect it. And a registry is more polite than money? What is the big deal??? I think that a money tree shower is a great idea. This way, instead of the bride having to decide what to return multiples and offending someone, they could put the money towards something they want.

I have been to so may showers and its sometimes frustrating to try to figure out what to get. Cash is easy and always a pleaser. There was a comment on here from someone who said, that the gifts would be keepsakes of their wedding day. I have been married for many, many yrs, and I cant remember who got me what.

It would have been great to have a trip, something I would remember for a very long time! My nephew has just come home from the peace corps and his bride to be, a girl from Uganda, is coming here soon. They are planning to train to teach in other countries. They cannot accumulate household items. What they do need cash. Peace Corps is not a place to accumulate vast cash reserves.

I want to give the girl a shower. She has never been in the US before and knows nobody but the boy and his parents. How can I give a shower and ask for cash. I worked in the bridal registry department of a national department store when I was in university.

We would have the occasional bride that would register for the most expensive version of everything then return the lot after the wedding. This always seemed to me to be a huge waste of time and money for the bride, the guests and the staff at the store. If all you really want is money not wedding gifts, then it is best to just say so.

Some people are going to want to give you a gift anyway. Accept them with grace. Let your girlfriends take you out to the spa for the day instead. Finally, someone with some common sense.

I was just invited to a money shower and I brought a tangible gift. I found something very nice that was on sale… a monetary gift can be quite embarrassing if you cannot afford to give much. With a tangible gift you can stretch your dollar if you are a smart shopper. BTW, the guests all received a party favour that had a small piece of paper tied to it which read: Fit for a Queen: The Purple Theme Favor Ideas.

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Traci November 9, My daughter is in the service, stationed about miles away. I THINK SO … Reply. Oh well, we just had LOTS TO TAKE BACK to get more of what she really needed… sad but true… Reply. Rita February 28, P. Oh, and NO gifts AT ALL cash or otherwise. I forgot to put that part. Part 2 This is a great site used by brides… And the info here is amazing complete with links… When wording the shower invites, you can write: People still rave about it Reply. Heather November 13, Hi Kyra, Im not sure if you had your wedding yet, but if you havent and we live close, I would be happy to help you with flowers and cutting corners.

Momo May 29, Simply put, asking for someone to arbitrarily buy you something is tacky and wrong. Ellie June 20, Momo, THANK YOU so much for saying this out loud!!!!

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GoArmy October 28, What about the peope such as myself who cannot take gifts back home with them… My husband and I are stationed in Oahu, Hawaii and we will be having a shower in the Mid-West.

Christina September 10, A money tree is absolutely tacky. Rachael October 29, I think the best thing to do in this particular case is to politely decline the invitaion. Vicki May 17, wow — lots of really uptight and somewhat mean folks. Linda April 20, My nephew has just come home from the peace corps and his bride to be, a girl from Uganda, is coming here soon.

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